Sunday, November 28, 2004


I've been working my butt off all week at my new job and they didn't deliver my pay check yesterday! Meanwhile, my roommate's boss had taken off with all their pay checks too -- so no rent from him this week either! :(

U2 Rock NYC Streets!

U2 hit the streets of New YorkBand cruised down Broadway blasting songs from new CDUpdated: 8:17 p.m. ET Nov. 22, 2004NEW YORK - Irish rock band U2 brought traffic to a standstill at the heart of New York on Monday, blasting out songs from the group’s latest album as they cruised down Broadway on a flatbed truck.
Office workers on their lunch breaks whipped out their camera phones to catch the surprise appearance by the band, whose album “How to Dismantle an Atomic Bomb” was released in Britain on Monday and is due out in the United States on Tuesday.
“I can’t believe it. I have to call my mom right now,” said one tourist in a crowd of hundreds as Bono sang Christmas favorite “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” in Times Square.
The stunt was filmed for the video of the forthcoming single “All Because of You,” and the band was due to make another free appearance in Brooklyn later in the day.

New York City Toy Store Pepper Sprayed

Pepper Spray Spurs New York Toy Store Evacuation
Several shoppers were hospitalized after the toy store was pepper sprayed Saturday.
NEW YORK (Nov. 28) - Police were reviewing video camera footage to find out who discharged pepper spray inside an elevator at Toys "R" Us crowded flagship store, sending at least three people to the hospital, authorities said.
Saturday's incident also left others with irritated eyes at the toy chain's Times Square store during the busy shopping weekend. About 80 firefighters and 40 to 50 police officers responded to the scene, acting Ninth Battalion Chief Mike Meyers said.
"I immediately could not breathe," Teresa Cassello told WNBC. "I said 'I have to get out of here 'cause I'm choking,' but there were so many people behind me that I couldn't get out."
Fire department officials said about 3,000 shoppers were evacuated. Firefighter Kevin Nolan said five people were taken to St. Vincent's Hospital and 17 others were treated at the scene or refused medical attention. Police said three people were taken to St. Vincent's and nine refused medical attention.
Two people were released from the hospital within hours while one remained for further treatment, hospital officials said.
"We knew something happened," said Juan Ramirez, whose wife was treated for burning eyes. "People were trying to go out."
Susan McLaughlin, a spokeswoman for Toys "R" Us, said the incident was under investigation but declined to elaborate. "We are cooperating fully with the police," she said.
The 110,000-square-foot store, which opened in 2001, features an 60-foot indoor Ferris wheel.

Monday, November 22, 2004

Queen of the Sky Blog gets flight attendant fired!

Found it!!!!I saw an article today on the TODAY show about a Delta Flight Attendant that was fired for posting some pictures of herself in her blog.Of course she has a lawyer now and is fighting it, and I think she deserves all the support we can give her! Even if it is only to read her blog -- so here is the URL.

Serendips Blog -- check it out!

Onto new things...

As I stated in my last post, my foster son is now gone. He just needed way too much psychological care than I could give. I had been letting him go to a local teen center and things were going pretty well until one day he came home and said he wanted to kill some kids there. He stated that he was going to get a knife and stab them! Things got really crazy after that, and I knew that there was no way for me to handle all his special needs here on my own.

I had to stop letting him go to the teen center because he stated he knew where they kept knives there. I should mention they cook there once a week for the teens, and put on a pretty good spread too! They have a small kitchenette area, and they did have 2 sharp knives (note I said DID HAVE, they removed the after the police called them to tell them about the incident)
Anyway, when he found out he wasn't going be going to the teen center for a while he flipped out, trashed his room, and tried to jump out the window. Later he ran away, and though he didn't go far he was still technically a run the police were involved.

The police brought him to the hospital for a psych-evaluation. It was a loooooong night!
When I got home, I came into a complete mess. First of all, the foster childs room was totally trashed, the window was still wide open from when he tried to jump out the window, and on top of it the dog had flipped out with all the confusion that went on and had pulled all my new clothes down from their hangers. I had just gone shopping earlier that day, and had hung my new outfits up on the back of my bedroom door. The dog had pulled them all down, and proceeded to pull the trash apart too. So, at 1:00 am I came home to a complete mess, and a frantic dog.

I knew right then it was the beginning of the end for my time as a foster parent.
It was sad, but I also knew that my foster son needs intense professional help.

My Foster Son is now gone..

Well, all, it has been a while since I've updated this page. Shame on me!
I have seen blogging in the news TWICE today alone --- one was a Today show story about a Delta Flight Attentant that got fired for posting pictures of herself in her blog, and the other was about Ruben whats his name (from American Idol) losing weight. Seems everybody is blogging buy me! LOL

Right now I am trying to figure out how to get to a specific person's blog. I'd like to read the Flight Attentant's page -- I think her name is Ellen Simonetti -- and post that I think her being fired with out even getting unemployment bennies is shamful on the part of Delta Airlines!

Sunday, July 11, 2004

Behavior Log 6/11/04

I met H @ 9AM to accompany him to a day at an amusement park with the other school grads. H lives in a residential school for special needs kids. We arrived at the park @ 10AM and went into the park. We spent the rest of the morning getting our brains scrambled in various ways. J

We had a lot of fun at the amusement park.
After arriving home H helped me give Jack (the dog) a bath. We spent the rest of the night watching TV and doing crafts.

EVENING 5:00 PM TO 11:00 PM
H woke up in the middle of the night and stated he had a bad dream. He claimed that a man came in the house and said he needed some of H’s underclothes (H just got new socks and underwear.) He went on to say the man went into the kitchen and started taking food. H claims that in his dream he told the man to, “get the f***” out of the house.” In the morning H thought that talking me was a part of the He dream. In fact, he was sitting up in bed, eyes open, and speaking very clearly.

H has some general fears about going to bed. He always insists that the lights be on, and the door be wide open. I have been working on reassuring him that this is a safe place for him, and he need not be scared. I’ve been told that this is common in abuse cases, and is known as “hyper vigilance.”

It never occurred to me but bedtime can be a threatening thing to a sexually abused child.

Finally! I got here!

hello! I finally got here to comment on this blog - you're doing a great job zulu - hang in there!! I want to read a bit more and possibly chat with you before I write anything else - but I'll put your link on my blog too.

Tuesday, June 22, 2004


Date 5/16/04

H woke up @ 8AM and quietly turned on the TV. He was in a good mood. We visited the Animal Shelter (url: H indicated that he would like to volunteer. He was eager to help out, and even picked up a mop and helped mop the floor! After that we walked one of the dogs, Danny. The visit was cut short because the Animal Control Officer had to go out on a call, but we agreed to go back in 2 weeks and visit/volunteer again.
We walked at a local nature trail/fish hatchery. H was upset because we forgot the bug spray, but walked the nature trail anyway. H was very worried about Jack getting “loaded with ticks”, but I told him Jack gets special meds to stop ticks from getting on him. (url:
After our walk it rained so the rest of the afternoon was spent watching movies. He was unhappy to learn the parental controls on the TV block pg13 movies, he spent some time trying (unsuccessfully) to figure out how unlock the code. I told him PG13 movies have to be evaluated individually for content. He argued that he was old enough to watch PG13 movies; I reiterated 11 is not old enough for a movie rated for a 13 year old without supervision.
EVENING 5:00 PM TO 11:00 PM
While packing to leave H jumped up on the top bunk and broke one of the slats on the bed. He prefers to sleep on the top bunk and argued when told he’d have to use the bottom bunk until we get the top bunk fixed. He insisted that he can’t sleep on the bottom bunk, and how horrible it is. He refused to accept that he should not sleep on the bunk with a broken slat. Next weekend we will work on ways to fix the bed, and reasons why it isn’t appropriate to jump on the bed (i.e. safety, appropriate behavior, respect for property)

Summary: H has a very positive attitude, and is always eager to help. He can be stubborn at times, but usually listens to reasonable explanations. He participates in all planned activities, and enjoys making future plans. He is asking to spend more time here, and has asked about coming over on Friday nights, and spending more time on school holidays.

Friday, June 18, 2004

Foster Parenting Log Saturday 5/15

Child: H
Today’s Date: 5/15/04 Day of Week: Saturday
Proctor Parent: Zulu

Picked Him up at Walker @ 10AM for his first overnight visit. The morning’s activities included a short visit to a local firehouse museum followed by some yard work at the house. He was very helpful, and in a very good mood. He loved the museum, and was happy to hear that we would go there for a longer visit soon.
We spent most of the day at the house, watching movies, and cooking out. At one point He said he was “bored out of his mind” because we were watching a movie, Brother Bear, he had already seen. However, I had asked him before putting the movie in if he had seen it and I’m sure he said he had not. I’m still scratching my head over that one! J

I’ve noticed HE has a heightened fear of all bugs with a specific fear of ticks. Even with repeated doses of Cutter bug repellant he continued to swat & scratched at his legs and insisting I check his scalp for ticks. In the house he got down on his hands and knees and looked under the baseboard heaters and was upset that he found some dead bugs under there.

EVENING 5:00 PM TO 11:00 PM
After dinner, we took a long walk with Jack (the dog), along the way we met up with several people also walking their dogs. HE was outwardly very social, but also made some negative comments about others his own age. At one point, while walking thru a local cemetery, 3 children were walking a dog and playing around the gravestones. HE mentioned that he thought the girl was “choking her dog” because the dog was pulling on the lead. I explained to him that it was the dog that was pulling the girl, not the girl choking the dog. He also mentioned that the kids shouldn’t be playing on the gravestones, which I had to agree with!

Loose dog, nasty owner

Well, as a former dog officer I take these things seriously...

Tonight after picking up my foster son for the weekend, on the way home I nearly hit a dog the was running around all over the neighborhood and criss crossing a street where people drive quite fast. I get out to help the dog (not seeing a owner anywhere) and after about 1/2 hour of trying to get this dog, this guy comes up to me and says "is there some reason why you are trying to catch my dog?"

Ummm..Yeah..your dog nearly ran under my car you freak'n twerp!

Thursday, June 17, 2004


My garbage man left me a nasty note today stating, "leave garbage out by 7:00 AM this is my 2nd trip by"

I didn't realize my garbage was such a high priority!

What a life.

5/8 addendum

Additional Notes about Hiss reaction to being close to former pre-adoptive home:
When I initially asked H why he wanted to take a specific path through the woods to see the pre-adopt. family’s house, he blurted out “because I hate them and I want to annoy them” then quickly added “I don’t hate them, I was just curious to see if them still live there.”

Masked & Anonymous

"I've been feeding from the tree of knowledge of good and evil" -- Uncle Sweetheart

Wednesday, June 16, 2004

Foster Child's First trip to house

Today’s Date: 5/8/04
Picked Henry up at his temp residence @ 9AM. He presented me with Mother’s Day gifts (roses, a book & handmade card J ) He was very excited to come to the house for the first time. He was in a good mood, and very talkative. The morning’s activities included a visit to Petsmart to see the cats in the catroom. Henry enjoyed seeing all the dogs and cats there. We also visited my son’s home, where Henry met my Son, his wife and daughter. The visit went very well, and we invited them all over for a cookout.

After arriving back home we walked with the dog to the library. Henry got his own Library card and he is very happy about that. He even chose a book to take home with him for the week.
NOTE: As we walked to the library he tried repeatedly to get me to let him use a path through nearby trees to “see what was there.” I suspected there was a reason he wanted to go down this path, and later found out that he believes that the path leads to the backyard of his former pre-adoptive family. Due to the details he gave, I believe his previous family lives approx 3 blocks away. I talked to him about respecting their privacy and keeping appropriate boundaries, and he agreed not to go there again. I suspect curiosity will eventually get the better of him.

We had a cook out with my son & his family. He talked sports with my bio-son, and everything went smoothly. He helped me set the table, and helped clean up afterwards. We had a very nice day, and he was falling asleep in the car on the way back. He was dropped off back at his temp rez House @ 7PM

We agreed that next weekend we would have an overnight visit. I will be picking Him up around 10:00 Sat. morning and return around 6PM Sunday night.